Ins And Outs Of Interracial Dating And Relationships For Interested Singles
WHO AM I?
Well I am a white British male married to a black African woman. We have been married for five years and we have a beautiful 12 month old daughter.
WHY WRITE ABOUT INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS?
Simply put because I think many of us are missing out on what could be perfect partnerships with those of another race from ourselves. What I'm going to do is explain the in's and out's of dating between white Caucasian and black African backgrounds, although the same can be applied to dating other races too. For those not sure about this idea hopefully I can encourage you to give it ago and look for love with some amazing people you would never have thought about dating before.
STUMBLING BLOCKS
Firstly some people think they are just not into the appearance of another race but I urge you to think what difference is there really? Are you sure the features are unattractive or is there something going on at a deeper level telling you it's not right?
Once in a mixed race relationship, it's not all plan sailing there are difficulties with dating another race. Fact is, you are going against the grain of our ancestors. The history of slavery is still ripe within many people and they will meet you with adversary.
What I'm talking about is usually small subtle things, frowns, a strange look in the street, laughing, whispering to friends, without sounding paranoid it's common for myself and my wife to pick up on strangers doing these things.
This happens in shops, restaurants any public place really, and what do we do? The best thing we can do ignore them and show em we are having a good time.
POSITIVES
Your social network enlarges. I know this happens with any relationship. But you are more likely to have relatives in other countries and so you now have new places to visit, go on holiday and explore!
And not only sample but experience the culture first hand. For example, I've fallen in love with traditional African food.
Also you will find your being invited to new events, parties, cultural festivals or other family gatherings.
Your enlarging you cultural perspective and identity and you will learn new things about yourself.
Fact is, interracial relationships fly's in the face of racism and the idea of separation and superiority between races. Why do you think people frown or laugh at my relationship with a black African woman or vice-versa?
Maybe we need to realize that being in a stable, loving and prosperous relationship is what matters and put attitudes of skin color aside.
IN SUMMARY
In summary, dating interracially is a wonderful opportunity to immerse yourself in another culture, meet people you would never normally get the chance to meet and I truly believe play a role in creating a better world.
Source: pickup-and-love.blogspot.com
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